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रविवार, 9 डिसेंबर 2012 - 03:15 AM IST

 

 
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Balmohan, USA - सोमवार, 10 डिसेंबर 2012 - 01:43 AM IST
न मावलेला दुसऱ्या भागामधील मजकूर: 4.Show how to make amends. “How about doing half of your homework now, and the other half after tonight’s TV show?” This gives your child a progressive action he can take immediately to take responsibility for his misbehaviour. 5.Offer a choice. “You can finish your homework now, or after tonight’s TV show”. Make sure it’s a proper choice, not something like “Shall we do your homework now?” when you’re not going to accept no as an answer. 6.Let the child experience the consequences of his behaviour. “Your grades have gotten worse because you haven’t been doing your homework.” Sometimes no matter what you do, your child will carry on misbehaving. When this happens, it’s important for your child to learn that the consequences are a result of his own bad behaviour. You might be wondering how come I didn’t include using rewards and praise in the methods above. The reason is because studies have shown rewards and praise to be just as ineffective as
 
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Balmohan, USA - सोमवार, 10 डिसेंबर 2012 - 01:41 AM IST
भाग दुसरा: तज्ञांच्या मते: OK, so punishment is bad. What then? Just let children do as they wish? Surely not. Instead, try and use some methods which will nurture self-discipline (Faber and Mazlish, 1995) in your child. For example, if your child never finishes his homework, instead of a threatening punishment, you can: 1.Express your strong disapproval. “It upsets me to see your grades suffer because of lack of effort.” Remember to make it absolutely clear that you’re not upset at your child, but rather at his misbehaviour. 2.State your expectations. “I expect you to try your best in your studies.” This way your child knows what you’re expecting, and why you’re showing disapproval. 3.Empathise. “I know you find Maths difficult. Let me give you some help.” This helps your child to feel understood, as well as showing him that you’re trying to improve his situation. 4.Show how to make amends. “How about doing half of your homework now, and the other half after tonight’s TV s
 
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Balmohan, USA - सोमवार, 10 डिसेंबर 2012 - 01:39 AM IST
भाग पहिला: तज्ञांच्या मते: Punishment offers limited benefits Punishing a child may seem like a great idea at the time, as it is immediately effective in stopping challenging behaviour. However, the effects don’t last very long, as the child will only behave as long as the constant threat of being punished hangs in the air. In the long run, punishing will neither teach desirable behaviour nor reduce the child’s desire to misbehave. So what DOES punishing teach? In fact, punishment will teach a child: •To cover his tracks when he misbehaves, so that he doesn’t get caught. •To misbehave up to the acceptable limit, so that he gets away with as much as he can without being punished. •To hit others to teach them a lesson when he’s older and bigger, because right now it’s “OK” for older and bigger adults to hit him. Not exactly the kind of things you’d want your child to learn. Punishing = unhappy children and unhappy relationships Furthermore, a parent usually
 
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santosh joshi, wai dist satara - रविवार, 9 डिसेंबर 2012 - 07:56 AM IST
मुलांना मारणे म्हणजे शिक्षा न्हवे. मुले जर चुकत असतील,ऐकत नसतील तर त्यांना समजावून सांगणे हाच उत्तम उपाय आहे.त्यांचे कुठे चुकत आहे ते त्यांना पटवून दिले पाहिजे. त्यांना एकदा पटले कि मग ते चूक करणार नाहीत. जर मुलाचे वर्तन चुकीचे असेल तर त्याला त्याबद्दल एखादे उदाहरण देवून ''तू करत आहेस ते चुकीचे आहे.त्यामुळे तुझेच नुकसान होणार आहे''असे समजावून सांगितले पाहिजे. मुलांना जर मारले तर मुले कोडगी बनतात. त्यांच्या मनात आपल्या आई वडिलांबद्दल नकारात्मक भावना निर्माण होते. मुलाचे आई वडिलांबद्दल प्रेम कमी होवू लागते, मुले त्यांच्या पासून दूर जावू लागतात. मुले जर चुकत असतील तर त्यांना थोडसे रागावून व थोडसे समजावून सांगितले पाहिजे. मुलांना आपली चूक कळली कि मग त्यांना प्रेमाने जवळ घेवून ''परत असे करू नकोस'' असे म्हणले कि मुलांचाहि राग पळून जातो व मुले उलट उत्तर देत नाहीत. त्यामुळे घराचे रणांगण होण्यापासून वाचते. मुले अभ्यास करत नाहीत म्हणून पालक मुलाला मारतात. मुलांना मारल्यामुळे त्यांना अभ्यासाबद्दल तिटकारा वाटू लागतो. उलट मुलांना अभ्यासाचे महत्व पटवून दिले पाहिजे म्हणजे मुले आपला अभ्यास करतात.
 
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